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Tips for Researching Ancestors in the 1700s: Sarah Wilson Ackley as an Example

It was not until 1850 that censuses began to record the first names of all members of a household. The US censuses before that, taken every decade beginning in 1790, recorded only the name of the head of the household and the numbers of males and females in various age bands. Before that, the only information was scattered from one colony to another, from one town to another, and might be found in various official administrative documents or in church records.

Women are particularly difficult to research because their maiden names disappear at marriage. They rarely could own property and were seldom in charge of their own fates.

One of my ancestors, Sarah, the second wife of a direct ancestor, the second Nicholas Ackley, has been a mystery. Recently, someone reached me with an inquiry about an Ackley ancestor that led back to her and piqued my interest in once again finding more about her.

All I knew about Sarah was that she had married Nicholas-2 Ackley about 1757 and bore their first child, Lewis, in 1758 and second (and last) in 1762. I knew much more about Nicholas-2 who was born in 1708 in East Haddam, CT and died in Colchester, the next town over, in 1763. Nicholas already had raised a family with his first wife, who died about 1756, and would have been 48 when he married Sarah.

I have explained the process that I used to search for Sarah here, including such results as I have. Although this was targeted toward research in the 1700s, the principles apply to research during any time period. Setting specific parameters in this way can narrow down the search, making it less frustrating and more productive.

For this search, I used the following criteria for Sarah Wilson Ackley.

  1. Year of birth between 1717 and 1736, based on possible age at marriage (21 at youngest) and oldest likely age at birth of last known child (45)
  2. Year of death between 1763 and 1806, based on last known record (a guardianship granted in 1763) and maximum age of 70, generous but not impossible at the time
  3. Possible maiden names: Lewis or Wilson. The record of the marriage to Nicholas shows her as Wilson; her first son is named Lewis and it was popular at that time to use the mother’s maiden name as a son’s first name
  4. Possible widowed name: Wilson. It would have been unusual for a woman in her early 20s to have married a man of Nicholas’s age for her first marriage; marrying later as a widow would have been more likely.
  5. Catchment radius: within 25–30 miles of East Haddam/Colchester where Nicholas lived. Travel was difficult—meeting a potential spouse was most likely close to home. (The radius was expanded if nothing appeared within it.)

Because Sarah was such a popular name at the time, searching for a Sarah without specifying a last name produces dozens and dozens of possibilities. The numbers are fewer in the catchment area, using the date parameters, but even sorting through all those Sarahs could be overwhelming.

Note that all the research was done online. More information may be out there on the ground somewhere.

Did I find Sarah? Yes and no. I eliminated many records of women who could not be her. The results showed that her maiden name was probably not Lewis or Wilson. I found one man who died in the early 1750s who could very well have been her first husband—Samuel Wilson Jr., who lived and died within the radius. If Sarah was about the same age as him, she would have been 30 when Lewis was born—about the age I would have expected. Although the results are not certain, it does help focus further searches and eliminates a number of Sarahs with whom our Sarah has been confused.

The First Eight Ackley Generations in America: Summary

Below is a brief overview of the first eight generations of my direct line family of Ackleys in America (and only that line). Note that the table and the summary below do not include references because these are available in the chapters that explore the earlier generations. Please see those for both references and detailed explanations about the research and findings. (This post may be downloaded as a pdf file by clicking here.)

The adventure gene

Nicholas arrived in Hartford, CT in about 1650, less than two decades after its founding. The town was some distance from Boston, which then was the largest city in the northeastern English colonies, and two or three days’ journey from the towns in the south on Long Island Sound. By the time Nicholas married about 1655, life in Hartford was settled—laws were in place, commerce thrived, and the sense of community was strong. But Nicholas left that behind in 1667 to help found what would become Haddam, CT, more than a day’s hard trip away, with about two dozen other families. It was wilderness but offered the prospect of more land and potentially more wealth.

Nicholas’s son and grandson, James and Nicholas-2, did not have the wandering spirit. James moved across the Connecticut River to East Haddam and Nicholas-2 to the adjoining town of Colchester. But Abel, next in line, certainly got the adventure gene. In about 1764, at the age of about 17, he and his younger sister, both recently orphaned, left Colchester for the new town of Sharon, CT. That town was then on the frontier, about 80 miles west. Abel had relatives and friends there, and probably no other good option for himself or his sister. They married siblings and settled across the border in Amenia, Dutchess County, but Abel did not stay. In about 1774, he moved his wife and children about 90 miles north up the Hudson River to what is now White Creek, Washington County, NY.

Two of Abel’s sons led settled lives in Washington County, NY, becoming prosperous farmers, but the youngest son inherited that adventure gene. With his young wife and infant daughter, Lot West Ackley headed west in about 1813, settling 170 miles away in Sand Bank (now Altmar), Oswego County, NY. At the time, it was complete wilderness and he was among the first arrivals. The next three generations stayed in the area.

The migrations were gutsy, for sure, but all were to areas with family or friends. Nicholas likely chose Hartford in part because a group of men also from County Essex, England already was there. Similarly, many of the early settlers of Sharon, CT were from the area of Colchester, CT and Abel had relatives there. Abel also was not alone on the next move: Washington County attracted many from Dutchess County, NY including two Ackley cousins. Forty years later, Lot headed west to Sand Bank at the same time as several other families from Washington County.

Modest lives, comfortable enough

For the most part, the Ackleys were moderately successful farmers, except James, who was in the top two percent of the wealthiest men in CT in the early 1700s. Nicholas-2, his son, probably was not a farmer, but plied a trade such as carpenter or stonemason. He seems to have struggled in life and was the only man in the line to appear to be destitute at his death.

Several Ackley men were involved in local politics and government over the generations; none was particularly prominent. They were the type of family essential to the building of the country—the essential, honest, reliable middle class.

None of the Ackleys appears to have been charged with a crime, although James and his wife were sued for slander by his sister. This family feud is now famous, sadly, as the last time supposed witchcraft was part of a court case in CT (see post here).

Patriotic, but not attracted to war

Some generations in this line participated in wars, some did not. Two of Nicholas’s sons probably fought in the first French and Indian War at the end of the 1600s. Nicholas’s grandson Nicholas-2 and at least two of his sons were in the militia in the last French and Indian War in the mid-1700s. One of those was Abel, who also fought in the Revolutionary War, albeit briefly. His son Lot is rumored to have served in the War of 1812, but likely did not. Two of Lot’s sons (but not my direct line) enlisted at the outset of the Civil War, surviving that horrible conflict but with lifelong injuries. Two Ackley brothers in the eighth generation, including my grandfather, enlisted in World War I—just days before the fighting ended. By the second World War, these men were in their 40s and 50s, and not called up.

Marriage, family and the lives of women

The Ackley men throughout the years married fairly late, some in their mid-to-late 30s. This was not unusual for their times. Men in four of the seven generations of Ackleys married a second time, after the death of a first wife. In most of the generations, the family was created with the first wife and the second was a mid-life marriage. Nicholas-2 did have two sons (not direct line) with a second wife and Frank’s first wife died childless at age 20. Second marriages were common through the generations. Women had few options for supporting themselves; those who were widowed remarried and as soon as possible.

Two Ackley first wives in the earlier generations did outlive their husbands: the wife of wealthy James, who had no need to remarry, and the wife of fifth-generation Lot, whose eldest son supported her. By the 20th century, women remaining unmarried widows was more common: the second wife of Frank outlived her husband as did Arthur-2’s wife and neither remarried.

Until the mid-1800s, most women appeared in records after they married only with their given names, making them virtually impossible to research. Records for both women and men are sparse for the first five generations. The US censuses began in 1790, but it was not until 1850 that the given names of wives and children were recorded. Until then, only the name of the head of household was recorded and the rest were counted by age range and gender.

Good information is available only on one woman in this line before the 1800s: Hannah Shevalier who married Abel in the mid-1700s. A descendant of her father published a well-researched history of that French Huguenot family. After Hannah, the next woman with traceable ancestry is Sophia, who appears by name in the 1850 census. Her family, the Mattesons, arrived in Rhode Island in the mid-1660s (her cousins were my paternal ancestors). Mary, in the seventh generation, was the daughter of Irish immigrants who married into a family whose ancestors had arrived from Holland in the mid-1600s. Her ancestry is explored in the chapter on Frank and Mary. Not being able to trace the other women leaves many questions maddeningly unanswered.

Whatever their ancestry, these were tough and brave women who ran households that required substantial amounts of hard labor just for daily living. Yet they still produced a baby every two to three years for 20–25 years. Until the late 1800s, large families were essential not only to completing the chores of daily life but also to creating and maintaining the overall wealth of the family.

Lengthy but precarious lives

Most of the Ackley men in this line lived long lives for their times. Nicholas died at about 65, which was average for men in his generation in that area of CT; James lived to be about 69; Nicholas‑2 died comparatively young at 54; Abel lived to an amazing 89; Lot to 66; Arthur to 69; Frank to 79 and Arthur-2 to only 55.

Of course, age at death tells us nothing about the quality of life in later years. Medicine for much of this time was rudimentary, and these men would have suffered, perhaps greatly, from ailments and conditions we routinely treat today. This would have been true for the entire family through all generations, and for much of their lives.

Women did die in childbirth, an event often not recorded as such. The only known such death in this direct line was Sophia, my second-great grandmother who died after giving birth to Frank on 31 December 1854. The other wives were past child-bearing age at their deaths, except perhaps Nicholas-2’s first wife, who remains unidentified.

Almost every Ackley generation lost at least one child in childhood. Knowing exactly how many in each generation is impossible before the late 1800s because records for births and deaths were simply not well kept. Children who had died before their fathers died usually did not appear in the father’s probates or wills, of course; official records contained births and deaths only if the parents reported them, which they often just did not do; and many records have been lost over the years. Relying on family lore for such information may mean that children who died young often are simply forgotten by later generations.

The two earliest Ackley generations lost fewer children and experienced fewer deaths from disease than later generations. This was primarily because those early generations were more isolated. As the population, travel, commerce, wars and immigration increased, so did the spread of disease. It is too easy for us in the 21st century to forget that it was after World War II—in the eighth generation and into the ninth—when antibiotics became widely available, effective treatments for heart disease were developed, vaccines for killer childhood diseases appeared, and death from complications of childbirth became uncommon. The complex medical care we take for granted today would have seemed like the wildest of fiction to the first eight Ackley generations in America.

The story of this Ackley line, then, is part of the story of the settlement and development of America and the USA. The chapters on each generation tell that story in greater detail, placing these ancestors in the context of their times. Although we never will know exactly what their lives were like, this approach  makes the people in each generation more than just names and dates. That has been a major purpose of the chapters that trace the eight generations.

N.A. Mattison, ©2023

Ackely family history migration
1813 base map available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2011587198

New Information about Elizabeth Taylor Ackley (1793-abt 1875)

Digging once again through Ackley records that I inherited, new information surfaced about the parents and siblings of Elizabeth Taylor (1793-abt 1875), wife of Lot West Ackley (abt 1788-abt 1854).

The new materials are confusing; one list appears to be the wrong Taylors and as I sort through that, the materials I had originally posted are no longer available.

The one sibling who can be traced reliably is the youngest, Abigail (1796-1864). It was her 12-year-old daughter Lura Ann Baker who wrote a letter in 1842 to her Aunt Elizabeth’s daughter Catherine Ackley, then 18. The letter contains clues about the family, and reveals a girl intrigued by the landscape but also missing friends and family from Sand Bank.

“Montrose, Lee Co, Ioway Terr, May 1, 1842 . . . Father has got 80 acres of prairie land 1 mile from Montrose, 11 miles above the junction of the Des Moines [River] with the Mississippi River. The [Mississippi] river is a mile and a half across at Montrose . . . The prairies now look like great meadows covered with grass and flowers of all colors . . . Send me some pinks seed [a flower] and Sweet Williams [a flower] of all sorts and colors . . . We should be very glad to see any of you or any of our neighbors.”

Lot West Ackley and Elizabeth Taylor Ackley: Draft Chapter Available

Ackley Family History lineage: Nicholas, James, Nicholas-2, Abel, Lot

Lot West Ackley (1788-abt 1854) definitely got the Ackley “adventure gene.” Born in 1788, six months before the birth of the USA, he married an 18-year-old Elizabeth Taylor (1793-abt 1875) in Washington County, NY in 1812. In 1813, he moved with Elizabeth and their infant daughter 160 miles west to Sand Bank, Oswego County, NY. The area was truly a frontier at the time, even more so than Haddam, CT when Nicholas-1 relocated there in 1667. A few other families from Washington County relocated to Sand Bank at about the same time as Lot and Elizabeth, but the total population could not have been much above 30.

In 1831, Lot and Elizabeth bought property just north of town and settled in. By 1835, they had ten children–and their oldest daughters had married and were starting their own families.

Lot died before an 1854 map of the area was drawn. Elizabeth appears as owner of the property that year and is listed as a widow in the 1855 census. She lived for another 15-20 years with one or another of her children, either on the farm or close by.

This chapter traces the lives of Lot and Elizabeth, setting them in the context of events of their time. It includes several appendices with greater detail. These summarize the lives of each of the ten children; trace participation in the Civil War of seven of their descendants; summarize the available censuses for Lot and Elizabeth; and list the most common errors about them that appear in online family histories.

See the Nicholas’s Descendants page.

Abel and Hannah Ackley: Draft Chapter Available

Perhaps only Nicholas-1 (c1630-1695), the first Ackley in America, experienced as much change in the world around him as did Abel (abt 1746-1835). In his early years, Abel lived among the descendants of the first settlers of Connecticut, mostly English and mostly Puritan. Before he reached 21, he had lost both parents, taken his younger sister by the hand and moved them both to the frontier (western CT/eastern NY) where they had relatives. This area was being settled by a diverse group, including Moravians from Germany, Huguenots from France, and Quakers never welcome in Connecticut.

Abel clearly adapted. He soon married Hannah, whose family had originated in France. About a decade later, he was on the move again, looking for better opportunities. He relocated the family to the area near Saratoga, NY, just in time for the Revolutionary War. Abel was part of the militia, as he had been 15 years earlier in the French and Indian War. After the war, he experienced the creation of the new nation as a man with a settled family life, raising his children and marrying once more after Hannah’s death in the late 1790s. By the time Abel died in 1835, the Erie Canal had been built, further transforming New York state, and the first steam engine trains were appearing.

This chapter will be part of the next published book, which will include Abel’s father Nicholas-2 and grandfather James. Each chapter includes details about the major events in the life of the man and his family and information about the times in which they lived. The chapter on Abel includes a brief summary, a table of events and dates, and a full discussion of the lives of the family. Appendices include additional detail on children, appearance in censuses, and Abel’s participation in the Revolutionary War.

Although the information is as complete, and as accurate, as possible, I may not have turned over every rock. I am very interested in any information others may have. Please feel free to contact me with comments or questions.

Coming soon: Abel Ackley (1746-1835) and Hannah Shevalier (1745-1799)

Abel’s generation is the fourth in my line, beginning with Nicholas (1630-1695). The chapter on Abel’s life will appear shortly, with more complete information and full references. Summaries for Abel and Hannah appear below.

1779 Map–may not be entirely accurate. Abel and Hannah Ackley lived in the area of the red circle.

Abel Ackley served in the French and Indian War in 1762 with his father Nicholas (1708-1763). He was at least 16 at the time, making his year of birth no later than 1746. After the death of his father, Abel (then abt 17) and his younger sister Sarah (then 14) left Colchester, CT for Sharon, CT where they had relatives (the offspring of Sarah Spencer, who had sued James and Elizabeth Ackley for slander). In Jan 1766, he married Hannah Shevalier whose father had immigrated from Jersey, Channel Islands. The Ackleys lived near Amenia, Dutchess County, NY where sons Arthur (1766-1848) and Solomon (1774-1861) were born (and possibly other children).

About 1775, Abel moved his family to the area where he lived until his death, White Creek, Washington County, NY. There, he served in the militia during the Revolutionary War probably at the time of the Battles of Saratoga in 1777. His son Lot West Ackley (1788-1854) was born in White Creek, as was his daughter Sophia (1777-1869), who married Elias Kelsey. Abel owned a small farm, which appears on the tax rolls in 1802 and 1803. Hannah died before the 1800 census, where she does not appear. In about 1815, Abel married Mary (1767-1850), probably a widow. He died at the age of 89 on 12 March 1835 (estate papers finalized in 1838). Mary died in 1850 at age 83.


Hannah Shevalier Ackley was born on 14 March 1745 to Elias Shevalier, a Huguenot immigrant from Jersey, Channel Islands, and Mary Adams (1714-1770) in Pomfret, CT. Between 1747 and 1750, Elias moved the family to Amenia, Dutchess County, NY. The Shevaliers had ten known children. Hannah married Abel Ackley (abt 1746-1835) on 16 January 1766; her brother Elias, Jr. (1742-1768) had married Abel’s sister Sarah (1749-?) on 17 October 1765. (Sarah’s fate after Elias Jr’s death is unknown.)

Hannah and Abel lived in the Amenia area until about 1775, welcoming Arthur (1766-1848) and Solomon (1774-1861) and possibly other children. The Ackleys moved to what is now White Creek, Washington County, NY in about 1775 where Sophia (1777-1869) and my direct ancestor Lot West (1788-abt 1854) were born. Hannah does not appear in the 1800 census, or after, so likely died before that census was taken. Her father’s will, dated 1805, notes that she is deceased and leaves a sum to her children.


Map source: Sauthier, C. J. (1779). A chorographical map of the province of New York in North America: divided into counties, manors, patents, and townships: exhibiting likewise all the private grants of land made and located in that province. London: William Fadden. Retrieved from the Library of Congress, www.loc.gov/item/2018588054/.

Nicholas-2 Ackley: Who Was He?

The chapter on the next in line, James’s son Nicholas-2 Ackley, is now available (click here).

The first three Nicholases

Children named after parents or other relatives can have the advantage for the family historian of helping distinguish among families, but it also can create confusion. Online Ackley family histories sometimes conflate three Nicholases: Nicholas-1, the immigrant (abt 1630-1695); Nicholas-2 (1708-1763), the son of Nicholas-1’s son James; and Nicholas-3 (1762-?), the son of Nicholas-2.

Nicholas-2 Ackley

In some ways, Nicholas-2 Ackley was even more of a challenge to research than his grandfather. Records become harder to find in the 1700s, partly because more people were about and partly because more towns meant more opportunities to lose records over the years. The chapter on Nicholas-2 has a few holes as a result but still provides a good overview of the man, his family and his life.

Ackley family towns map

Nicholas-2 was born on 16 December 1708 in East Haddam to James and Elizabeth Ackley, the second of seven children. James became well off and Nicholas likely lived a comfortable life as a young man. He would have had some memorable experiences: for example, a snowstorm in 1717 that covered houses up to the second story and an earthquake in 1727 (and a bigger one in 1755).

After his own birth and baptism, the first known record of Nicholas-2 is the birth of his son Jeremiah in 1742. Three more sons and two daughters appear in the records, but he may have had more children not recorded. The known lists of official town records include only his last two sons and second wife. An older secondary source captures three of the four children from his first marriage, a son and two daughters, and his first wife’s given name. (See table below.)

The 1730s and 1740s were a time of serious economic difficulties in the Connecticut colony. Nicholas-2 likely struggled to make ends meet. He does not appear to have been a farmer and probably earned a living as a skilled or semi-skilled worker. At the time of his father’s death in 1746, he owed the estate a considerable sum, mostly forgiven in the will (see that chapter).

In March 1757, at age 49, Nicholas-2 enlisted in the provincial troops as part of the British effort in the French and Indian War (1755-1763)—possibly for the steady income. He enlisted in four of those years, for terms that lasted about 7-9 months. (Provincial troops were recruited anew each year.) He died at 54 in late May or early June 1763, just months after his last term of service. The chapter includes a description of which battles Nicholas and the other eleven Connecticut Ackley men experienced.

Those darned rumors!

Once again, the research for the chapter uncovered persistent mistakes. Three stand out:

  1. Nicholas-1 never fought in a war. Nicholas-2 fought in the French and Indian War, dying in 1763, well before the Revolutionary War. Nicholas-3 was born in 1762 at the end of the French and Indian War and so clearly did not fight in that. He did fight in the Revolutionary War. Nicholas-3 was the only “Pvt”–before that war only officers were given a rank designation.
  2. Nicholas-2’s wife was not Jerusha Graves—that was his first cousin; she died before any of Nicholas-2’s children were born.
  3. Nicholas-2’s son Jeremiah did not die in Erie County, NY in 1817, but tragically young at 19 in 1761 in East Haddam, CT. He also obviously could not have signed the 1776 Loyalist petition in New York City.


Map: Park, M. and W.P. Lansdowne (1766). To the right honourable, the Earl of Shelbourne, His Majesty’s principal Secretary of State for the Southern Department. This plan of the colony of Connecticut in North-America. [N.P] [Map] Retrieved from the Library of Congress, https://www.loc.gov/item/73691553/  Scale ca. 1:275,000.

What’s in a Name? James Ackley’s Wife Elizabeth (Hint: Not Cowdrey)

James Ackley was the youngest of Nicholas Ackley’s children. As with James’s mother Hannah (post to come or see Discovering Nicholas Ackley), the parentage and year of birth of James’s wife Elizabeth remains a mystery.

Various Ackley family histories claim to provide the answer about Elizabeth’s parentage, but none provides any clear proof and most, perhaps unwittingly, present false information. As is explained below, even Elizabeth’s age at death may not be what is recorded on her gravestone.

Elizabeth Ackley’s gravestone, Old Cove Burying Ground,
East Haddam, CT

About her parentage: The extensive online Ackley family genealogy has her born in 1689 in East Haddam to Nathaniel Comedy and his wife Mary Bachelder.[1] This includes numerous errors. Mary Bachelder was married to Nathaniel Cowdrey and they did not have a daughter named Elizabeth. It was their son Nathaniel Cowdrey, Jr. and his wife Elizabeth Parker who had a daughter named Elizabeth Cowdrey, born in Reading, MA on 6 Oct 1689[2]. This Elizabeth married Timothy Goodwin in Reading, MA in 1708.[3] So this cannot be our Elizabeth, who gave birth to James’s first child in 1707. These errors, however, appear again and again in online Ackley family genealogies.

Other considerations would suggest this is not our Elizabeth. No Nathaniel Cowdrey family lived in East Haddam at the time. The Nathaniel Cowdrey, Jr. above could not have moved to East Haddam because he died shortly after his daughter’s birth. According to his probate papers,[4] Nathaniel Cowdrey, Jr. died in 1690 in the “Expedition to Canada” in King William’s War and was a resident of Reading at that time. His widow married Jeremiah Swayne/Swain of Reading shortly thereafter; they both died in 1696.[5] IN 1697, Hannaniah Parker was granted guardianship for his “Grand Daughter Elizabeth Cowdrey Daughter of Nathaniel and Elizabeth [Parker] Cowdrey late of Redding in sd County of Middx Deced Intestate. She being a minor of about 8 years of age.”[6] That Elizabeth, then, most likely continued to live with her great grandfather after her parents’ deaths until her marriage to Goodwin and never lived in East Haddam, CT.

Our Elizabeth Ackley is not this Elizabeth Cowdrey, beyond the shadow of a doubt.

Elizabeth had become a common name. Could she have been another Elizabeth Cowdrey? The answer is “no.” I suspect the original choice of Cowdrey was because someone discovered a birth year for an Elizabeth that coincided with the age listed on Elizabeth Ackley’s gravestone. No Cowdrey family, however, appears in East Haddam vital records before 1733 when a daughter, Huldah, was born to Nathaniel and Mehittabell. This couple would have been the age of James and Elizabeth’s children; they could not have been the parents of James’s wife Elizabeth.[7],[8]

Probate records for early Connecticut capture about 80-85% of actual deaths, according to Main, but much closer to all of those for men with families.[9] A search through the three volumes of Manwaring’s probate abstracts showed no probates for any Cowdreys at all during the period 1635–1750 and included no names that might easily be mistaken for Cowdrey.[10],[11] It is extremely unlikely that a Cowdrey family settled in Connecticut would not have had at least one probate recorded for a family member during that time. It is almost impossible for Elizabeth to have been the daughter of Connecticut Cowdreys.

So was she a Comedy? I suspect that was a misreading of some spidery scribble of Cowdrey. A look through the vital records reveals absolutely no Comedys living in or near New England at that time—using any spelling imaginable (e.g. Comety, Camady, Comede, etc.). The probate records also do not contain a Comedy, by any spelling.

Elizabeth Ackley’s parentage, then, remains a mystery.

About her year of birth: To be in the 66th year of her life at her death on 19 September 1755, Elizabeth would have had to be born after 19 September 1689. This fits with the 6 October 1689 date often cited in Ackley family histories, but we have established above that this birth date belongs to a different Elizabeth. Note also that gravestones can be wrong, and too often are. It is possible Elizabeth Ackley was not the age claimed on the stone, but a few years older.

The first child of James and Elizabeth (James Jr.) was born in July 1707. At the latest, then, the couple married in 1706. If Elizabeth was born in 1689, she would have been 16 or 17 at the time (depending on the actual month/day of her birth and marriage). Although women were marrying earlier than in Nicholas’s day, this is very young and 22 was the average age for women to marry.[12]

The cadence of the birth of Elizabeth’s children also seems unusual. She would have been 32 at the birth of her sixth child and 39 with the seventh and last (see table). An apparent seven-year gap during peak childbearing years would be unusual as would having a final child at a relatively young 39.[13]

I suspect Elizabeth may have been as much as five years older than the gravestone claims. Why the discrepancy? It is possible she claimed to be younger than she was, or perhaps the person ordering the stone was uncertain about her actual age. Again, it is not unusual for gravestones to be incorrect.

Elizabeth’s birth year matters because an incorrect year would make finding her maiden name even more challenging by, say, looking for all Elizabeths born in the area in a particular year. This may well be the genesis of the Elizabeth Cowdrey mistake.

Even knowing her birth year might not solve the question of her parentage. Old records very often are incomplete: the record of her birth may have been recorded in a ledger not yet discovered or lost entirely. The record of her marriage to James also has not been found.

We do not know, then, who Elizabeth’s parents were; and we cannot be certain about her year of birth or marriage. Although this may frustrate some, it is just the nature of genealogy. Not knowing these facts does not change who she was. But giving her a maiden name and parentage that is not hers does her an injustice, particularly when verifiable facts are readily available to rule out obvious errors.

YearEventJames ageEliza age*
abt 1677James born in Haddam
abt 1687Mother Hannah Ackley dies9
abt 1689Elizabeth ? born in ?
1695Father Nicholas-1 Ackley dies17
abt1706James and Elizabeth wed2917
1707son James Jr born2917
1708son Nicholas-2 born3018
1712son Nathaniel born3422
1716son Gideon born3826
1717dau Desire born3927
1722dau Elizabeth 2 born4432
1729son Benajah born5139
1746James dies6856
1755Elizabeth dies65?

*Using 1689 as birth year


[1] https://www.ackleygenealogy.com/nicholas/b2269.htm#P2269

[2] Mehling, 1911, pp. 49 and 55; Ancestry.com, 2011, Reading MA Births

[3] Mehling, 1911, p. 55

[4] Mehling, 1911, p. 56-57

[5] Ancestry, 2018: Reading Deaths, p. 596. As noted in Discovering Nicholas Ackley, this was one of the worse years of the Little Ice Age and starvation or illness because of poor diet and extreme weather caused many deaths.

[6] Hannaniah lived until 1724, in Reading.

[7] White, 2002, p. 213

[8] A Cowdrey does marry an Ackley: Loren Cowdrey marries Sarah Ackley in East Hampton, CT two hundred years later, in 1819. Ancestry.com, 2013: East Hampton church records.

[9] Main, p. 9, 11

[10] Manwaring, 1904a, 1904b, 1904c

[11] Note that “C” in the handwriting of the time was distinctive, which narrows down the risk of error in such searches.

[12] Main, p. 13

[13] Of course, later pregnancies could have been unsuccessful.

References

Ancestry.com (2011). Massachusetts, U.S., Town and Vital Records, 1620-1988: Reading Births.

Ancestry.com (2018). Massachusetts, U.S., Compiled Birth, Marriage, and Death Records, 1700-1850: Reading Deaths.

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